Good News About Pheromones

The good news about pheromones is that these old neural pathways can be rewired. Science has shown that as we practice new habits, our brain physically changes by creating new neural pathways and weakening the less used ones. These new paths will become faster and more automatic to us the more we use them, and the less those old paths are used, the less likely you’ll be to fall into them for longer periods of time. Love the outdoors? There are plenty of careers in that area. Want to make a positive difference in the world? The possibilities are endless. Love numbers and spreadsheets? Fortunately your passions match up with what society has deemed most valuable. For those whose passions lie elsewhere, don’t listen to what anyone else says you should be doing. At the end of the day there’s only what makes you happy and fulfills you, and at the end of your life that’s all that will matter. Learn more at and

Hell, if a kid from Detroit can be a dating coach, you can do anything using these great pheromones.Think back to all of the times when you received at least two of these signals from a woman while feeling that natural attraction in your body and you didn’t allow your sexual interest to be expressed. Maybe you weren’t sure how or maybe you were waiting for her to give you the most obvious signal ever based on something you did. In many of those situations she was trying to say, “I like you,” and you replied, “Sorry, not interested.” Learn more at

Think of how many times you were frustrated that things didn’t work out when it was in fact you who rejected her because you were afraid to let your feelings be felt.Again, these signals can also just mean that she just wants to be friends. If you express your desire in the ways I describe in the following chapters and she doesn’t feel the same way, don’t take it personally — she just didn’t like the smell of your sweat. And don’t keep trying to be sexual in order to try to create a moment that’s not naturally being created: that’s how you come off as creepy. Instead, just continue to enjoy this other human being’s company. It can be difficult not to take it personally when you’re starved for any sort of sexual intimacy. But once you stop holding your sexual feelings back and start enjoying all of the sexually charged interactions you were meant to it will be much easier to ignore the times there isn’t any chemistry, rather than letting them reinforce the idea you’re undesirable.It’s an imperfect system, and in the future I hope that men will get better at reading the feelings of the moment and communicating with their own. I also hope that women will become more understanding of the language men were taught to communicate in and get more comfortable expressing their desire overtly without fear of being called a “slut.” Until then, though, we have to do our best to do our part — to listen to our feelings and express them genuinely because we felt them, not because she made some grand gesture of her own.


Robin Patterson